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Letting Go Of Other’s Responsibilities

Just Say No

As I sit here gazing at my son’s IPad that he left at home, I have a niggling reminder of the little task that he requested of me while on the way to school today. “Mum, can you bring it at lunch?”

While on most days we are all bleary eyed as we muddle through the morning trying to make sure we get out the door on time, whose responsibility is it to bring the forgotten items to their owner?

Truly I say to you, I don’t have one bit of regret that I’m still looking at the IPad long after lunchtime has passed. I didn’t say that I would bring it, in fact, quite the opposite. I told him simply that it was his responsibility to make sure that he had what he needed for the day. Relief swoons over me as I feel that I made a wise parenting choice. So how does this translate to the rest of our lives, where the lines may be a little blurred in terms of where responsibility lies, and how much we should take ownership of.

Putting On Your Own Oxygen Mask First

For me, it’s coffee before even putting in my contact lenses. It doesn’t matter if I can see, I just need to smell the chocolatey, nutty aroma of my cup of joe before I can breathe.

The airlines coined this advice of putting on your own oxygen mask first before you help others for good reason. If you can’t breathe, you can’t help anyone, and that’s that. This means that you need to take care of yourself, in whatever way you need to, first.

Today I’m just doing nothing. As far as my regular responsibilites are concerned, the bare minimum is all I can manage today, and I’m o.k with that. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves to be the sterling pictures of efficiency everyday. So once in a while, get up, get your oxygen mask (in my case coffee), and put it on before you do anything else. You’ll be much better for it!

xx Nina